“Too Much of a Perfectionist”

I was told by a former partner that my “neuroticism would ruin my kids.” He unabashedly advised me to forget having them at all because I was “too much of a perfectionist”. Having high expectations for yourself and your children is different from “ruining” or abusing them. Just because I am learning to love and respect myself at this moment in time does not mean I am utterly incapable of loving and respecting my potential children. My decision to have children will have nothing to do with his generalizations about and misunderstanding of OCD. It will be my own.