When I tell people where I am from, they automatically assume I know other people of that heritage, or am interested in connecting with all other people of that heritage. “Oh wow, you’re from this country? I know someone from there, do you want me to give you their phone number?” or “Wow, you’re from this country? Are your family refugees? How did you end up here?” It goes as far as to repeatedly invite me to events (that I am not interested in) because they are related to my background. I always feel obligated to attend the event, to accept the phone number, to explain my immigration story.